With change comes a lot of… indecision

Hello, my lovely readers! I don’t know if you’ve noticed, but I have a new layout up at Cake & Cows. Please check it out and let me know what you think! I am human after all.

Back in the day, I’d have a new layout each month. Since I’m currently hosted at WordPress.com and refuse to upgrade to a paid account, it’s not quite so easy to make changes to the theme. Actually, it’s impossible. I’ve spent the past couple of days toying with the free themes WordPress offers. I think it has more to do with the fact that aesthetically I’m just picky, but I’ve finally found a theme I like! I debated whether to draw a new header image, but ultimately decided to make use of this photo of my wedding cake since I wasn’t able to enjoy it. I WILL NEVER NOT BE ANGRY ABOUT NOT GETTING TO FINISH THAT SLICE OF MY OWN DARN WEDDING CAKE! Why else do you think I got married?


I also re-wrote the About page. It’s more serious than the previous silly one. It’s not that I’m trying to make this site less silly, because my silliness is part and parcel of who I am. But I also don’t want to limit myself; not all my posts are silly nor will they be. Some, like the last few, are quite serious in tone. I also wanted to provide greater context to new visitors. So hopefully this new About page speaks to all that.

I also added a new page called Projects. They too, like my writing, are an extension of who I am. I realized in the course of creating this page though, I never announced the one that might actually be relevant to my blog readers – my online book club! If you’re interested, please do check it out and consider joining.

Okay. I think that should do it for this edition of “Boring Site Stuff.”

There’s something else that I have been thinking about – which unfortunately is also site-related, but hopefully not quite as uninteresting as the things I mentioned before.

I have a little “conundrum” that I’d like to get your thoughts on. I’m debating whether to create a Facebook page for Cake & Cows. Up until now, I’ve resisted even the thought of one, but my reasons for doing so don’t really make sense. For one, I am on Facebook and not exactly inactive, either. Second, I’ve promoted my other writing and even linked to Cake & Cows when I first started the blog. But since then, I’ve been hesitant to actively promote it. Perhaps a part of me feels bad for doing any promoting at all. At the same however, I don’t have a publisher and/or publicist, so if I want my writing to be read, I kinda have to promote it, don’t I? Cake & Cows is special to me and I’ve put a lot of investment into it. But there’s also a part of me that feels it’s not worthy of any attention because it’s just a blog. And not even a blog that is reader-focused, like a food or fashion blog, for example.

And yet, even though this blog feels like it’s nothing more than a hobby and doesn’t really offer anything tangible to others, I’m really proud of it. Not because I think my posts are ground-breaking or anything like that (they’re not), but because what its mere existence signifies to me. I’ve come a long way since I first opened this blog in March. Cake & Cows is a testament to this growth and I want it to continue to be a testament to all the changes I hope to make and goals I hope to achieve.

Do I share it with more people or keep it as is? I don’t know. Here I am again making a mountain out of a molehill. Classic Rafia!


7 thoughts on “With change comes a lot of… indecision

  1. I’m glad to see you reaching for more with this blog. I’m a huge fan of the new layout and the photo is adorable! Haha. I’ve been thinking of fixing my page up too so this is definitely an inspiration. As for Facebook, I don’t have one so I’m sad I won’t be a part of that, but I think it’s always a great idea to expand your work onto different platforms. I’m so excited to see where you go from here girl :)

    Also, I did not know you had a book club! What the heck You keep surprising me ma shaa Allah!

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  2. Love the new look Rafia. Being present on multiple platforms is essential to increasing one’s readership, so if that is something you would like to do, an FB page might be interesting to consider. I do have one for my blog, but since I diligently keep my friends to not more than 30 people (I’m profoundly anti-social, new people make me uncomfortable), it hasn’t exactly drawn in audiences loool. However, I can see how FB could be a wonderful tool for introducing people to your blog, especially if you already have a good pool of friends to invite and get to share your page. In the meantime, you’ll have your old fans here on WordPress to share your wonderful posts with. By the way, I’ve joined your book club. You are on a roll girl, keep it up. I’m officially joining your chorus of cheerleaders :)

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  3. Thanks, Geeky! I think I saw Sumaya call you Geeky, so I’m going to call you that as well from now on, if you don’t mind! GM reminds me too much of cars! I get what you mean. I guess I’m sort of afraid of rejection from IRL “friends.” But I should not remain ignorant! If that’s what I need to face the mirror, I must! Yay! Thanks for joining. For some reason, I never received a notification though. Lemme look into it! LOVE YOU! :)

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  4. Awww, really? I understand. I was off the site for years, but then joined for work and now I use it for personal reasons. I try to limit my time on there, but it’s tough. Haha! I totally forgot to promote the book club on the blog. I hope you consider joining!!!

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  5. The new layout looks awesome! Can one send a paid account upgrade to another WordPress user? Asking for a friend…

    Can you get the bakery to re-create the top tier of your wedding cake for an upcoming anniversary?


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