Reframing

It’s so easy to focus on the negative, but today I am consciously choosing to focus on the positive.

It has to be a conscious decision, because for most of my life I absorbed the negativity around me. Not all people were negative of course. But it’s usually the critics and detractors we tend to remember — and the people who were always positive, we thought perhaps they were out of touch with the “real world.”

But what does that negativity actually achieve?

I suppose criticism can enable its recipients to work harder to get out of their current situation. But that’s often an idealized story. For most people, I would assume, negativity only breeds more of it.

I think the fact that the sun is shining this morning is definitely having a change in my mood. I also had a rather productive Saturday (I tried two new recipes and cooked with leek for the first time! Both passed the “Rafia Taste Test,” though I was in the kitchen longer than I wanted to be).

I have to continuously remind myself of the good, even though my comfortable position is to self-criticize and worry.

With regards to my last post, it’s going to require a lot of patience on my part and putting all my trust in God, no matter what happens. When I dwell on what people might say, I know that that is an indication that the most important result is not the physical, but rather the mental, emotional, and spiritual.

It may not happen in the timeline I want. But like the adage says: it’s not the destination, it’s the journey itself. And from an Islamic perspective, we are not responsible for the results, but we are responsible for our intentions and actions.

This requires letting go, which is so difficult for human beings. We are able to manipulate and control so many things in the world. But we do not control what illnesses we have, when we die, the people we encounter, the families and circumstances we are born into, and as the last few days in Indy have shown us, even the supply of food.

Reminding myself that God is in control of all, gives me a sense of serenity. It is not a license for inaction. Quite the opposite. But each day, I have to work to make sure my beliefs line up with my thoughts and actions. The latter requires reframing. I used to see it as taking the easy way out, but now I realize, in some situations, it’s the only way to live in a world inundated with so many damaging myths.

One thought on “Reframing

  1. I agree one million percent. And for many of us, it’s so hard to reframe and focus on the positive. May your wise words be an inspirational reminder for us all.

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